Has anyone ever given you practical advice on how to pursue singleness? You may ask yourself: “why singleness? I have no interest in being single, I need relationship advice.” Let me give you a different perspective of singleness. There is a misconception that being single means being alone. But singleness is opposite of being alone. Singleness means you are seperate (apart, detached and different), unique (original, distinctive and special), Whole ( complete, unified, one with self).
This basically means your best friend is yourself. It also means you don’t imitate anyone else and you don’t need to be in a relationship to feel important. There are a lot of relationship coaches nowadays that give advice on relationships, but what we really need is advice on how to pursue singleness. Believe me, it would solve all of our relationship problems. You know you are ready to be in a relationship when you don’t need to be in one. In this blog I will give practical advice on how to pursue singleness.
Singleness Means:
- Focusing on God
- Fulfilling Purpose
- Practicing Self Care
God:
Focusing on God is split into Two parts. The first is Loving God by being obedient to his commandments. And the second like the first is Loving your neighbors as yourself (see my blog “How to live by the Love of God“). This part is the most important part in your journey of pursuing singleness. Without this part none of the following parts will make sense. If you want to be successful in pursuing singleness you need to be connected to God. There is no other way around it, because God will give you strength to succesfully pursue this journey.
Seeking the kingdom of God will be the first thing that you will have to do to start pursuing your singleness. Then every other thing shall automatically be added. You will never get tired of being single when you are connected with God. Even when you get married, singleness is a state to be pursued. Because you will not be attached to your partner to make you content. But you will lean on God to fulfill you. Which will lead to you adding to your partners life and not taking from them and vice versa from your partners side.
Purpose:
Fulfilling purpose means doing what God has called you to do. Purpose is the gift that God gave to everyone. You were created to dominate life through the area of your gifting. Your gift was given to solve a problem on earth. Discover, Develop, refine and serve that gift to the world. Want a relationship? Fulfilling your purpose will make you attractive and attract potential partners. The interesting thing about this, is that you are not focused on attracting anyone. But you are focused on cultivating the gift God gave you. The influence and significance you will have will make you attractive. Doing what you love and have passion for will be an important part of your singleness.
Self Care
Practicing self care means taking care of yourself mentally as well as physically. Your mental health is an important part of your singleness. Everything you do flows out of your minds. That is why it is important to protect and take care of your mental health. And lastly, Taking care of your physical health by watching what you eat, physical maintenance and exercising. Our physical health is an important part of our singleness because, if we are not healthy we can’t fulfill purpose.
Conclusion
God, Purpose and Self-care will be the GPS to your singleness. This system will lead to you leading a successful Life. You will finally be content with yourself. You will have peace within you. Many of your problems that you have with people will be solved instantly. And suddenly life will become interesting. Singleness will make you look forward to living life.